Having worked with a great many patients over the last decade, I have been struck by how hard some people find it to be kind to themselves and how closely it is connected to low self esteem.
Often the people I work with are generous in praising and esteeming other people; they notice their acts of kindness; they admire their skills and abilities; but getting them to admit that they have good points is like getting blood out of a stone.
They belittle themselves; they downgrade their skills and wonder why they feel shaky and uncomfortable inside! Inside their heads they speak to themselves in a way that they would never talk to their children; sometimes they even speak to themselves more harshly and unkindly than you would to the family dog! Can this be right? Of course not; theirs is a dog’s life….no wonder you feel bad.
In my book Self Esteem Unlocked you will find the help you need to change how you think and feel about yourself so that you can enjoy the contentment that comes from self acceptance.
Think back across your life and jot down some of the things that people have said to you over the years that have made you feel good about yourself. When someone pays you a compliment you feel like a dog with two tails don’t you, and the great secret that few people realize or grasp is that you can carry on the good work in your own mind and, by praising and complimenting and appreciating yourself, you can enjoy the same surge of pleasure, contentment and motivation as when compliments come from others.
Notice that I used the word ‘motivation’ – when people praise you, your motivation increases, in other words you discover more energy. Energy is something that people are looking for almost as much as self confidence, and improving your self esteem is certain to give you more of that magic rocket fuel: energy.
Self Esteem Unlocked is an honest and straightforward book that will give you many examples of the ways in which you can improve your self esteem. As you learn to appreciate and value yourself you will find that many of your relationships will improve. Because you learn how to change feelings of inferiority into an enjoyable sense of self worth that is respectful of others but not inferior to them, people feel more comfortable in your company. You will give off the good “vibes” that come from a person who is at peace with themselves.
Self Esteem Unlocked does what it says on the tin. It shows you the essential ingredients of building your own good self esteem. Considering the wide array of tools you will have at your disposal for the rest of your life, the cost is tiny. Can you afford to be without it – this golden guide will be by your side for life.
Notes
When you were a child praise was heaped on you lavishly. Why does it suddenly stop when you are an adult.
